Choosing happiness = being in a positive flow and in the moment for no in pacticular reason as life is beautiful!
Being in a positive flow, is one of those moments in life where you are in the moment. Your present, you can feel the wind blowing through your hair, and have a big smile on your face.
All of a sudden a thought pops into your head “I’m not sure how were going to pay the bills for next week” or “I wish these jeans would stop digging into my stomach” or you may even start a argument with someone.
A dark cloud has suddenly descended and those moments of joy are long gone.
Most likely you haven’t even realised this has happened, as we do this consistently.
The first time I was aware of this, I had spent my Saturday at a Gabrielle Bernstein event, met some friends for dinner afterwards and had a great weekend overall. On the Monday I went to see my naturopath , left super happy and spent the 10 minutes on the drive home thinking how great life was!
When I got home my husband was in and asked me a question- something along the lines of how was your session, and suddenly that grey cloud descended. I suddenly got annoyed and spent the rest of the afternoon in a mood. Everything was a problem for me that afternoon until I realised…
I had disrupted my own positive flow, as my ego didn’t want me to experience the joy and be in the present moment, as when this is the case the ego can’t exist. The ego can’t exist because it lives in the future.
The ego is the voice that talks to us - you know the one, your most likely well acquainted. It’s the voice that whispers your fears, keeps you awake at night, and pulls you from moments of joy.
It’s the negative tirade that we put up with on a daily basis. Sometimes it’s nice to us, not often but occasionally.
Can you imagine what life would be like if you didn’t listen to the ego? If those blissful moments of joy, happiness existed for long periods of time, without self doubt, worrying and fear?
It sounds amazing doesn’t it? Well it exists and its something we can have, it just takes awareness and commitment.
“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.” - Gautama Buddha
How can we make this happen?
By understanding that this voice isn’t the true version of us. The true version of ourselves is when we are experiencing true joy – those deep belly laughs, moments when life seems like perfection, and are open to the present, and not living in the future.
Enter meditation. Meditation is one of the best tools to help silence your ego, clear the mind and to rest and restore.
There are different types of meditation, and I recommend trying a few to find what connects with you. If you are new to meditation there is a lot of guided meditations that can help you get in to that space. Meditation isn’t a quick fix and its something that most likely your going to have to keep working on – but don’t give up – that’s what your ego wants you to do!
I would also suggest for a day writing down everything that your ego says to you – it’s so interesting what we put up with! If someone we loved said these things to us, there’s no way we would put up with them for long, so why is it ok to say it to ourselves?
Grab a notebook, and carry it around with you for a day. Every time you have a negative thought write it down, its important not to judge it, at the end of the day review it – you won’t believe what you have been saying to yourself!
Once youv’e completed this, jump back on and let me know in the comments how you got on lovely x