Shiny Object Syndrome. Are we chasing the wrong things?

31 May 2016

This year I’ve had a new obsession. The minimalists. Thank goodness I’m typing this, as there’s NO way I can pronounce that!

I’m sure you’ve heard of them, and if you haven’t I recommend jumping on to your podcast feed and subscribing to their podcast. It's ok, I’ll wait here while you do.

I’m not going to lie, I was a happy shopper. I used to shop if something went wrong, if something went right, or if the day ended with a y, or if I was bored.

I like many of us equated shopping to happiness. (Although I have always found parting ways with money a lot harder in Australia unless its sport clothes or furniture!

At the start of the year I made an announcement. I wasn’t going to buy any more sports clothes. Everyone scoffed at this and rightly so. If we know each other personally you’ll realize I have a weakness for lululemon and Nike. There are/ were my shiny objects.

I hate to tell you this but I lasted all of about 3 weeks. Style runner had a sale and before you could shout stop I had bought some new Nike trainers and a top. BUT I haven’t bought anything since then – 3 months on! Big pat on the back for me.

So where am I going with this?

Since I imposed a self shopping ban I have realized that by buying things I was trying to buy happiness, or fill a small void in my life. Don’t get me wrong I still buy things but only if they are things that I’ve been lusting after for while and not the 2 minutes whilst I was lured into the shop.

Instead of investing my money into items, I’ve invested my money into opportunities and experiences, and this has fulfilled me a lot more.

As a small business owner I realized that people weren’t as happy to part with Money for an experience as much as they were for an object that they would have to take home.

 “Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.”- Dalai Lama

Why are we so scared to invest in ourselves?

What experiences are you denying yourself, that you could redirect your money towards, that would elevate your health, wellbeing, or that would just bring you an immense amount of joy?

For me that looked like:

  • Doing an in person Vedic meditation course.
  • Stepping up and investing in my business to help me spread the message far and wide.
  • Flying to the UK to see my family. (I’m self employed so there’s no holiday pay!)

It doesn’t even need to be financially how you invest n yourself. It could be time. Time to read, time to swim, if you didn’t need X amount of money to buy things, how much time would that free up for you?

Don’t get me wrong I still buy things, but now I analyze if I actually need it or if I want it.

I’d love to hear if this has changed your perspective, and how you're going to invest in yourself next?

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